I’m not negative, I am a realist. truth is the more you speak with the average parent the more you discover it’s all hard work. I have 7 weeks til d-day and only 3 weeks til Lolo turns 2. I’ve always said she was a handful. constantly into everything, a genius yet no off button. but it’s a challenge from the start. in the womb in your first tri you feel permanently sick, your third tri you have no room to breathe and it all starts becoming heavy. then there’s birth. they start life crying, then there’s every developmental stage on the way. potty training, language and boundaries are some of the things we’re going through at the moment. and as their language improves of course so does the many ways they can use it for or against you. then there’ll be a new sibling taking up mummy’s and daddy’s time. then school, the boy’s etc. there’s at least 20 years ahead of us of trying to manage them. my question to a fellow mother with a young teenager was, realistically when do you have that aha moment. when do you get to look at it all, the child, the family and say ‘yes! this is what I was looking for! this is what I’d always hoped it would be!’ do you ever? life’s a journey, got it but is the best bit when they move out? do you have to wait that long? and if the purpose of it all is to see them go then what was the real reason for having them in the first place? I liked the idea of having kids and a family, but why? what is it that’s so appealing?
of course even with all these thoughts the odd thing is I really wouldn’t change it for the world. It’s like most difficult things, they often make you a better person, they give you perspective. but the truth is I’m not sure I had a family for my own self improvement. last night when she cuddled and nuzzled me with her nose whilst we were in bed i had an overwhelming sense of joy, yes, but you don’t know about those moments when you think of a family. so what compels us to procreate other than booze?
oh, this parenthood lark is all too confusing!
It would appear I have a bit of insomnia. I have a 23 month old who sleeps soundly through the night and in her new bed but it is I who is up! Not fair. However it is a 4 day week, tomorrow is already Thursday and it would seem the weather is on the turn, a high of 19 degrees C. Spring hath cometh! So I might be tired tomorrow but at least it will be lovely.
The benefits of insomnia of course are being able to sit on the internet undisturbed, shopping for stuff I do not need and searching for information! For example I had some chia seeds in a yoghurt the other day and really liked it. But as I’ve learnt from my pharmacist friend, just because it is natural doesn’t mean its always good for you, let alone for the baby, so I thought it worth checking what the deal was with chia seeds
Superfoodblog (a raw and healthy lifestyle) had this to say about chia and other good, raw foods around pregnancy:
According to the NHS, vitamins C & D, folic acid, iron and calcium are all crucial for pregnant women.
- Omega-3 (CHIA!): Omega-3 fatty acids can help prevent premature birth, lower the risk of pre-eclampsia, increase the birth weight of your baby and even reduce the risk of post natal depression… Omega-3 can be found in: fish, fish oil, CHIA SEEDS, hemp seeds and walnuts. Coconut oil is known to actively stimulate the absorption of omega-3, so switching to this fragrant oil for cooking during pregnancy and beyond can prove extremely beneficial.
- Spirulina Powder: Spirulina powder provides powerful protection against iron-deficiency anaemia as well as much needed protein during pregnancy. In addition to iron and protein, spirulina powder also contains vitamin E, vitamin B complex, calcium, magnesium, potassium, phosphorus, zinc and beta carotene, a natural source of vitamin A*, which is important for your baby’s embryonic growth and helps with infection resistance and fat metabolism.
- Baobab powder: Baobab powder is made from the fruit of the baobab, which is rich in calcium, phosphorus, potassium and iron and contains up to 10 times more vitamin C than oranges. Tastes like a combination of grapefruit, vanilla and pear apparently!
- Dried apricots: Extremely high in folic acid and provide expectant mums with a reliable source of iron, magnesium and dietary fibre. And… there’s the other thing dried apricots do.
- Dried banana chips: Packed with potassium, it helps to reduce fluid retention and maintain a healthy fluid balance during pregnancy. They also contain large quantities of vitamin B6, which is required for formation of red blood cells, antibodies and neurotransmitters and for the development of baby’s brain and central nervous system.
- Sunflower seeds: contain more folic acid than spinach or Brussels sprouts and are brimming with vitamin E, magnesium, selenium and omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids.
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This is a very simple list. a few things I’m too lazy to do myself and would prefer to spend money on.
2) Grated cheese. yep. I’m that lazy.
It’s just two things. But I can’t be arsed to hoover or change my sheets, happy to do everything else. and then grated cheese! well it’s a complete luxury but who can really be bothered?
I’d include: pomegranate seeds, de-shelled pistachios, pineapple and mango chunks, buying socks instead of darning, cliff notes and a car wash but sadly they do not feature enough in my life.
Yep. Seriously. ‘Stop whining’. It’s like Arnie said. ‘Get to the chopper!’ No. Wait.
Point being is we’re getting into the terrible twos. Funny part is we thought we’d started early at 18 months. Nope, it’s kicking off in earnest it would seem. Lots going on. The transition from cot to bed. Going ok actually. Potty training. We’re doing well. It’s now us who get frustrated when she constantly needs to go sit on the potty with the ensuing battle to get the nappy back on. I caught myself yesterday…. straight after the bath she asked for potty. I really can’t be bothered to take you. Oh, that’s counter-productive is it? FINE! Lol.
But then there the whining…. about everything. Oddly enough sometimes she’s fine being told no. I hear it’s all about consistency, patience, love etc. I think I can do love. As she’s growing and testing our boundaries she’s also developing other personal traits, like being cute. I think we’ll keep her. But it’s a time of character building let’s call it. Even daddy’s starting to get strict. Enough’s enough! Man up kid!
Not masses to report but do you remember I was training her to eat cherries at Christmas? The idea was she got a whole one, chewed and then removed the pip herself? Well we’ve not been trying it w cherries of late but this week she did have a particularly pippy tangerine. Well, she surprised us all by… removing the pips. I know it’s a small thing. Much like the fact she pooped in the potty last night and peed in the potty this evening (as well as peed on the floor – that’s another story). But I do love the little signs, the leaps in intelligence.
This is the oddest thing but today I’m 27weeks gone out of 40. I’m now officially in my 3rd trimester and it’s like a switch has been flipped. Tired. Hungry. My lower back is starting to kill when I walk. My hips are all creeky, it takes me a while to warm up into normal walking. Need to pee all the time. Baby is starting to get heavy. And smells are turning my stomach. .. in fairness the guy who sat next to me on the dlr just had a really odd mouldy smell… might have nothing to do with me. I think I’ve forgotten what else to expect. Lol. On the countdown!
3 dresses, £30. V exciting.